Men And Sex - AFYA4MEN

What Men Should Know

We are sexual beings and enjoying a satisfying sex life is something many desire and appreciate. Sex is a normal aspect of our lives. Many of us take sex for granted without thinking about its importance or without thinking about the choices we have taken related to sex. Responsible sex is about making the correct choices for ourselves and our partners based on mutual respect, open communication and honesty and looking after our health as well the health of our partners.

Who men have sex with

Some of us are in relationships or married, others are single. Some of us have several sexual partners. Many men only have sex with women, while many of us have sex with both men and women. Others only have sex with men. A few of us call ourselves gay. Some of us call ourselves bisexual because we are attracted to both women and men. We cannot choose whether we are attracted to women, to men or to both; this is not something we can decide. However, we can choose how many men or women we have sex with. Having sex with fewer people reduces our risk of becoming HIV-positive. Having sex with someone underage is illegal and all sex should be consensual (with agreement).

What sex men have

There are many different kinds of sex. Kissing, oral sex (blow job), anal sex, vaginal sex, thigh sex, group sex and mutual masturbation are all sex acts we can choose to do with our partners. Some of these acts are more risky for getting HIV than others. For example, anal sex without a condom and water-based lubrication poses a very high risk of getting HIV or passing it to others. We can also choose to believe a partner when they tell us they are HIV negative, or to treat all our partners as being able to infect us.

When men have sex

We can have sex when we are feeling in control of ourselves or we can have sex when we have been drinking or taking drugs and might not be able to make responsible choices. If we think we are going to have anal or vaginal sex we should ensure we have access to condoms and water-based lubrication.